What defines trauma, you may ask? Trauma can come in many forms. The most common is physical, emotional, sexual, and/or medical. Most people, when they think of trauma, assume it has to be a severe experience. However, what can appear minuscule can actually be damaging to a child’s development when it is repeated over time.

Trauma can take place not only within the home, it can also occur in public, in schools, and even in the womb or at birth. Once you understand what causes trauma and how to identify if your child has experienced it, you can help your child move through it.

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Some examples of trauma that children can experience are: a bad injury from a fall or recurring medical issues, parental fighting/ domestic violence, verbal abuse, lack of affection or love, divorce, violent media, instability in the home (moving from home to home), remarriage, getting accustomed to a new family or bullying from other kids, parents and/or caregivers.

Trauma can come in the form of belittling, degrading, and ridiculing. It can also come from making a child feel unsafe, including the threat of abandonment. Even time-outs or allowing your baby to “cry it out” can be considered traumatic experiences where a child can feel unloved, insecure, and unsupported.

Those mentioned above are more apparent causes of distress, but there are more subtle causes, too. One example of a less noticeable cause could be when you have a child that has a higher need to move their body but instead is expected to sit still for long periods of time in school or at home (which unfortunately can lead to children being labeled ADD/ADHD).

Another prevalent stressor is not being able to connect with nature. The importance of being in nature is often overlooked. And nature deficit can become detrimental to a child’s development. In today’s age, unfortunately, the natural environment has sadly declined as television, video games, demanding schoolwork, and technology continues to skyrocket. Even though evidence has shown that being outdoors relieves children who are highly stressed out, statistics continue to show more children are less in touch with Mother Earth.

So what happens when a child is highly stressed out? Stress and trauma can affect his or her ability to think and feel, which affects their behavior.

Several behaviors include:

Delays in development

The development of new fears

Regressive behavior

Separation anxiety (particularly in young children)

Sleep disturbance, nightmares

Feelings of depression; angst

Feelings of blame and guilt

Loss of interest in normal activities

Reduced focus and possible decline in schoolwork

Social withdrawal

Anger, acting out

Self-destructive behaviors

Excessive somatic complaints of physical ailments

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About Tangee Veloso

Tangee Veloso, Founder and Executive Director of Family Love Village (FLV), is an eco-mamapreneur, coParenting life coach, and author.

Her commitment to bringing community together with the focus and awareness around conscious and sustainable living and compassionate parenting through connection has become an ever-evolving passion. She is also the co-founder of another wonderful conscious community, A Thread of Connection, that supports families with developing deeper relationships with our loved ones based on mutual respect and authentic communication.

Tangee authored her first book, "Taming Your Wild Child: 7 Proven Principles for Raising Connected and Confident Children" and has written many articles on finding ways to connect with our loved ones, our children, our planet, and just as importantly our connection to ourselves.

She is also an experienced fire performer, spoken word artist, a loving mama to her 7-year-old son and a devoted ambassador of the concept with "being the change we wish to see in the world."