Emotional Intelligence or EQ is the ability to have self-awareness, self-regulation, motivation, empathy, and socials skills. These five components of EQ, when practiced daily, can help someone move through stress, overcome challenges and defuse disagreements with more ease while being able to communicate effectively with compassion.
Where IQ can determine someone’s intellectual ability, EQ is important for helping to manage a person’s emotions and improving their relationships. So if our goal is to raise happy, confident, resilient, and compassionate adults who are successful and fulfilled in life, then EQ is a vital key towards that vision for our children.
When we’re talking about a child’s EQ, it is important to guide him or her in finding ways to identify her feelings and be able to regulate her impulses in a healthy and productive way.
A few suggestions would be:
- Accept your child’s emotions. An example of what to say when they are mad would be: “That must’ve been frustrating.”
- Help your child label the emotion. For example, “I’m noticing you’re upset.”
- Encourage him or her to express their feelings by asking, “How did that make you feel?”
When it comes to neuroscience and parenting, it is such a vital factor in being able to understand how the two relate to one another. So now that you have a bit more understanding about how the brain works, how children’s emotions can affect their learning and the importance of emotional intelligence, perhaps your awareness can shed some light on the importance of being more conscious and empathetic when your child gets flooded with feelings.