coParents Keeping the Peace

coParents Keeping the Peace

There are two things that have remained important components of our family’s philosophy regarding peaceful

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High Conflict coParents and Targets of Blame

High Conflict coParents and Targets of Blame

High conflict parents can’t seem to stop themselves. They are repeatedly told to behave, by

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Top 6 Ways to Prevent Conflict While coParenting

Top 6 Ways to Prevent Conflict While coParenting

Following a divorce, there are so many dynamic factors occurring in the relationship between you

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Countering coParent Badmouthing 

Countering coParent Badmouthing 

A common worry is whether the other parent is doing and saying things to the

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Tribal Warfare – All Against One coParent

Tribal Warfare – All Against One coParent

In her book, In the Name of the Child, Janet Johnston and colleagues write that

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Reduce the Intensity of the coParenting Relationship

Reduce the Intensity of the coParenting Relationship

An emotionally-charged relationship is the fast lane to disaster when dealing with your child’s parent

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Negotiation: Differences In Men and Women

Negotiation: Differences In Men and Women

Regarding the subject of negotiation, we are going to address the issue of how men

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How a coParent’s Lack of Cooperation Harms a Child

How a coParent’s Lack of Cooperation Harms a Child

When parenting is not coordinated, important tasks start to fall through the cracks:  unreturned clothing,

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Examining and Overcoming coParenting Conflict

Examining and Overcoming coParenting Conflict

A strategy in examining and overcoming coParenting conflict is to look at the effects conflict

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The coParent Negotiator – Leave the Past Behind

The coParent Negotiator – Leave the Past Behind

Why is it so hard to achieve peace between Israel and Palestine? The groups have

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Persevere and Prosper – In Any Negotiation

Persevere and Prosper – In Any Negotiation

Veteran authors recount horror stories of trying to publish a book. It has always been

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The Conflict Connection: Figuring out What Makes Your Difficult Ex Tick

The Conflict Connection: Figuring out What Makes Your Difficult Ex Tick

Joe was at his wits end. Ever since his divorce he tried to do everything

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Listening and Responding With Patience

Listening and Responding With Patience

In negotiations, responding to anger—or any strong emotion— with patience can often lead to a

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How to Manage Your Anger During Negotiation

How to Manage Your Anger During Negotiation

Anger is the most common emotion in negotiations. In and of itself, anger is not

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When Your Kid Wants to Live With the Other coParent

When Your Kid Wants to Live With the Other coParent

Imagine. Life is just humming right along that is… until 13-year-old Abigail asks to stay

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Playing Nice – For the Sake of the Kids

Playing Nice – For the Sake of the Kids

You and your spouse have decided to split up for the sake of the kids.

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How to Communicate With Trust

How to Communicate With Trust

Trust is the lifeblood of any negotiation.
 One way to think of trust is as

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Tips to Get Your Ex to Listen

Tips to Get Your Ex to Listen

We usually hear what we want to hear, what we have been trained to hear,

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Tired of Nagging? Tips & Tricks Save coParents

Tired of Nagging? Tips & Tricks Save coParents

Last night, I listened in on a webinar on how to stop nagging my toddler.

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Quick Negotiation Tips for coParents

Quick Negotiation Tips for coParents

The next time you negotiate something, make sure you’ve clearly articulated what you want and

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Retrain Your Brain for Better Communication

Retrain Your Brain for Better Communication

Brain scientists have learned that you can change your own brain by practicing learning skills.

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The Importance of Parenting Coordination

The Importance of Parenting Coordination

Parenting coordination assists coParents to learn positive communication. When the parenting coordination process works well,

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How to Respond to High Conflict Personalities

How to Respond to High Conflict Personalities

Since they lack self-awareness, high conflict personalities (HCP) make no effort to change their own

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coParenting With a High Conflict Personality

coParenting With a High Conflict Personality

High conflict coParents. Why do people act this way? Why would someone act so extremely?

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10 Ways to Spot Domestic Violence

10 Ways to Spot Domestic Violence

Violence in the home or by family members is called domestic violence or intimate partner

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High Conflict Divorce

High Conflict Divorce

Many sources agree that up to one-third of divorces these days are high-conflict. This means

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Top 10 Tips for coParenting with a Narcissist

Top 10 Tips for coParenting with a Narcissist

If you are coParenting with a narcissist, you will be “surviving coParenting,” as the experience

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Not Getting Along with the Other coParent

Not Getting Along with the Other coParent

What is a coParent to do when they can’t stand to be around their ex?

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How to coParent with a Narcissist

How to coParent with a Narcissist

If you want to know how to coParent with a narcissist, first make sure you

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“Narcissist” – Overused and Undeserved

“Narcissist” – Overused and Undeserved

While describing a difficult coParenter relationship, the standard is to throw out a commonly used

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