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Child Reprimanding, Abuse and Brain Development

Picture this example of mirroring bad behavior.  A child is misbehaving and throwing their toy

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Children, Brain Connections and Actions

One explanation of why High Conflict Personalities, or HCPs, are not self-aware is based on

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High Conflict coParents and Targets of Blame

High conflict parents can’t seem to stop themselves. They are repeatedly told to behave, by

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Decreasing Media’s Affect On Our Kids

Are children helpless observers, doomed to do all of the bad behaviors they have seen?

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Why coParents Should Avoid Mirroring Bad Behavior 

Jeremy liked to tell jokes about women – very disparaging jokes about women. His son

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Tribal Warfare – All Against One coParent

In her book, In the Name of the Child, Janet Johnston and colleagues write that

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coParenting Rule: No Disparaging Remarks Allowed

In alienation cases, the problem is very similar. Most family courts have a standard court

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When Family Court Focuses on One Parent 

Ironically, family courts often slip into this all-or-nothing thinking from the start of a case.

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Positive Emotions Are Contagious – What Children of Divorce Want

I believe that contagious emotions are far more powerful in children’s lives than anything that

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Short Summary – Emotions Are Contagious

Emotions are contagious, whether they arrive by means of an ex, coParent, employer or friend.

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How to Survive Emotional Contagion

These are great top tips about how our emotions can transfer to our children. The

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The Dangers of coParents’ “All Or Nothing” Thinking

coParents need to be aware of the dangers of their “all or nothing thinking,” which

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Advice for the Family of High Conflict coParents

Here is some helpful advice for the parents, family, friends and professionals in the lives

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Sadness Following Divorce – Transferable to Your Child

All feelings can be contagious. I have had cases with one parent who is overwhelmingly

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Decreasing Your Own Anxiety – For Your Child’s Sake

Feelings are contagious and this includes anxiety passed from the coParent to the child. It

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Our Children’s Right To Choose

In addition to anxiety and constant conflict, add to this Culture of Blame a child’s

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Adult Relationships Following the High Conflict Childhood

By the time a child grows into an adult, he or she should have experienced

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The Family Court Culture of Blame

Family courts are not designed to understand the hidden dynamics of parent-child relationships. This makes

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Important Signs of Insecure Attachment

When a young child is not experiencing secure attachment, it is important to learn about

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Emotions Are Contagious! Stay Child-Centric

A mother screams at her ex-husband near their child, who sits quietly with her hands

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Secure Attachment Decreases Tantrums

Over the past 60 years, there has been a lot of research about “attachment” in

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Retrain Your Brain for Better Communication

Brain scientists have learned that you can change your own brain by practicing learning skills.

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Top Tips to Create Hope in Your Child

As intelligent and caring coParents, we have the knowledge and potential to turn the corner

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Tips to Teach Confidence in Our Children

Even as early as 12 months of age, a child can be observed by researchers

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How to Respond to High Conflict Personalities

Since they lack self-awareness, high conflict personalities (HCP) make no effort to change their own

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coParenting With a High Conflict Personality

High conflict coParents. Why do people act this way? Why would someone act so extremely?

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High Conflict Divorce

Many sources agree that up to one-third of divorces these days are high-conflict. This means

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Signs and Causes of an Alienated Child

What are the signs of an alienated child? Why do alienated children feel so strongly? Does

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