A Child’s Identity – Form and Function

Identity is forged across the span of a lifetime in the crucible of social pressure.

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Loving your child

The Balancing Act of Caring for You and Your Child

Taking care of yourself so that you’re better able to refuel your kids is a

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Communication Improves Consistent coParenting

Parenting is a verb with starts and stops, but it’s also a team sport. When

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Teaching My child the word, "no"

How To Teach the Important Lesson of “No” 

Verbs describe actions. Actions must have a start and a stop. Eating and drinking and

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Living As An Example For Your Kids

Flight attendants remind us routinely: take care of yourself first. This is not selfishness. It’s

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The coParent Should Be “We,” Not “I”

“I” versus “we” pronouns can be very important, when coParents are speaking to their child.

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Healthy coParents Refuel One Another

Only evolution’s cruel genius would make the ultimate act of holding tight and the ultimate

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Children of Divorce – Maintenance Required

Our car needs to be maintained, which includes rotating the tires and checking the oil.

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It Takes a Village, coParents

Most of us let go of one anchor only when we’re confident that there’s another

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Boredom, ADHD and Autistic Disorders

It is important to learn about your child’s various needs. Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) and

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Routines and Rituals – Great for Kids

Our brains are first and foremost difference detectors. We distinguish known from unknown, familiar from

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Helping Your Child Cope With Stress

Transitional objects and transitional affiliations often emerge and disappear spontaneously over the course of development,

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The Importance of Being An Anchor For Your Child

A healthy parent is an emotional anchor. Solid and reliable. Firm and constant. Stable and

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Helping Kids of Divorce Cope With Transitional Objects

When we understand how transitional objects and affiliations work, we can use them to help

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Why We May Hold Our Children Too Tight

There are two motives that cause coParents to hold their children too tight and close.

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The Development of Holding Tight, Letting Go

Holding Tight, Letting Go is about taking off the training wheels. It’s about the necessary

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coParents and Kids: Taking Breaks is Essential

We fight for greater and greater independence, even as we yearn to be held tight

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Childhood Development – Holding Tight, Letting Go

As infants, we are everything. We are all-powerful and all-knowing, kings of the universe. Maturity

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Aim to Decrease Your Anxiety

There have always been and always will be threats in the world around us. Some

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Accidental Rewards and Unintended Punishments

When twelve-year-old Billy showed up in math class without his homework for the third day

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