Identity is forged across the span of a lifetime in the crucible of social pressure.
Taking care of yourself so that you’re better able to refuel your kids is a
Parenting is a verb with starts and stops, but it’s also a team sport. When
Verbs describe actions. Actions must have a start and a stop. Eating and drinking and
Flight attendants remind us routinely: take care of yourself first. This is not selfishness. It’s
“I” versus “we” pronouns can be very important, when coParents are speaking to their child.
Only evolution’s cruel genius would make the ultimate act of holding tight and the ultimate
Our car needs to be maintained, which includes rotating the tires and checking the oil.
Most of us let go of one anchor only when we’re confident that there’s another
It is important to learn about your child’s various needs. Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) and
Our brains are first and foremost difference detectors. We distinguish known from unknown, familiar from
Transitional objects and transitional affiliations often emerge and disappear spontaneously over the course of development,
A healthy parent is an emotional anchor. Solid and reliable. Firm and constant. Stable and
When we understand how transitional objects and affiliations work, we can use them to help
There are two motives that cause coParents to hold their children too tight and close.
Holding Tight, Letting Go is about taking off the training wheels. It’s about the necessary
We fight for greater and greater independence, even as we yearn to be held tight
As infants, we are everything. We are all-powerful and all-knowing, kings of the universe. Maturity
There have always been and always will be threats in the world around us. Some