When we talk about divorce or separation, we always talk about coParenting. We read endless advice on how to be an effective coParent and ways to make the transition smooth for our kids. This is key to a successful divorce and more importantly, to raise happy and healthy children.

But what we don’t really hear about or talk about is something I have termed coNourishing, the act of ensuring that our kids maintain a healthy, well-balanced diet at both homes. As I write this, I can sense the eyes rolling and the reasons why this is impossible to achieve, but I would argue that it’s very achievable, regardless of your relationship with your ex.

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According to Registered Dietician and Nutrition Communicator and Educator, Cara Rosenbloom, eating habits and attitudes towards food that we learn as kids can carry into our adult life. Furthermore, parents want to do what’s best for their kids, they may simply be unaware of how in this case. If you’re the one who did all the shopping and meal prep when you were married, your ex doesn’t simply acquire this knowledge in your Divorce Agreement; they need to be educated, according to Rosenbloom.

Here are some tips to help:
1. Educate your coParent. Even if you have a toxic relationship with your ex, you can try sending them (via email) links to helpful articles about nutrition. For example, if you read an article which outlines the benefits of broccoli, you could simply forward it to your ex with a note saying, “FYI thought you would appreciate this since Frankie loves broccoli”.
2. If cost or perishability of fruits and veggies are a challenge, then look no further than your frozen foods section for an affordable and practical solution! Frozen fruits and veggies are less expensive and they last much longer than their fresh counterpart. Rosenbloom explains that while fresh raspberries last only a few days before we see mold, frozen raspberries can last up to a year in your freezer.
3. Educate your kids! This is a great approach, which can alleviate the inconsistencies, especially as your children get older. Encourage your children to participate in the food choices at Mom and Dad’s house. Perhaps they want to go shopping? Maybe they wish to find a recipe online with their parent that they can make together? This is not only valuable bonding time, but it also reinforces healthy choices in a fun way. If you have the type of relationship with your coParent that you can suggest this, then that would be ideal.
4. Send Leftovers. While this may not be feasible in every situation, if you’ve made a good wholesome meal that your kids enjoyed and there are leftovers, why not ask the kids if they want to take it to Mom or Dad’s house? In a non-confrontational way, you can simply send your ex an email (or phone them depending upon the relationship) and say, “we have so much leftover and since the kids will be with you this weekend, it would be a shame for it to go to waste”…
5. Don’t Fret. Rosenbloom explains that there is an 80/20 rule in nutrition, whereby it’s ok to make healthy choices about 80% of the time, and allow the other 20% to for indulgent foods that wouldn’t be categorized as “healthy choices.” So, if you’ve done what you can to educate and encourage healthy eating while your kids are with their other parent but to no avail, don’t fret… simply try to make up for it when the kids are with you. While you may give your kids cookies and fruit for dessert, you may wish to forego the cookies if they’ve had lots of treats while with their other parent.

More helpful information on nutrition can be found on Cara’s website www.wordstoeatby.ca

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